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i\u2019ve always wondered why a lot of women compete with one another. i grew up in a family where women got along and rarely argued, never physically fought. i know that seems to be rare, man i\u2019m not playing when i say that i\u2019m blessed, i know this and i\u2019m grateful. so to my surprise when i got in the \u201creal world\u201d i didn\u2019t understand why when i gave a woman i didn\u2019t know a compliment she looked at my side-eyed, or why when i was extra friendly and happy most women didn\u2019t trust me and thought i had something up my sleeve when i didn\u2019t! or when my female \u201cfriends\u201d would try to compete with one another i was so confused. what the heck is going on??? why would you be friends with someone and compete with them, always talk about them or not really like them? that to me is the strangest thing! i never understood that logic. this is women on tv, in movies, in your home, at the hair salon, at work. i\u2019ve seen countless women compete with their \u201cgirlfriends\u201d and sadly i\u2019ve seen a lot of them do it and probably didn\u2019t even know they were, because it came second nature. i had a friend who had a lot of aunts and her mother and her aunts stayed into it. i mean every time i would visit her mother\u2019s house i heard a different story about the sisters. it saddened me, i didn\u2019t understand why sisters would bicker like that, i don\u2019t have any sisters, but i have an aunt who is 6 years older than i am and we grew up like sisters, i\u2019m not sure if that counts. whether it does or doesn\u2019t i\u2019m leaning more to it not lol i still didn\u2019t understand. i mean where did this come from? who started this? why continue in this learned behavior? why do women look at another woman and consider them automatically the enemy?\u00a0 <\/span>i\u2019ve had friends who would compete against me and i wasn\u2019t even aware a third party had to point out the obvious because i didn\u2019t even think like that. i think enough is enough and women need to stop being competitors and be encouragers! encourage women, give compliments, be honest to your friends (i grew up with the tough love approach). just be your true self and who likes it likes it and who doesn\u2019t doesn\u2019t, it\u2019s just that simple. i know most women won\u2019t admit if they compete with their female friends or family members but you don\u2019t have to say it aloud or share with anyone but deep down you know the truth and all i\u2019m saying is the next time you feel yourself competing with another woman just stop, it\u2019s as easy as that stop! don\u2019t do it instead replace that negative energy with something positive. give her a compliment, encourage her, help her with something or merely just don\u2019t hate. it\u2019s as simple as 1-2-3. so moving forward if you see a woman with a nice outfit on, a cute coat, bad boots, or her hair is laid, tell her, smile and keep it moving! women we have so much power that we aren\u2019t aware of. it\u2019s about time we start tapping into the best us and changing the world! <\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0xoxoxo yours truly,<\/p>\n thee\u2019 one and only chonita nicole<\/p>\n sending love, peace and positivity your way! <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" i\u2019ve always wondered why a lot of women compete with one another. i grew up in a family where women got along and rarely argued, never physically fought. i know that seems to be rare, man i\u2019m not playing when i say that i\u2019m blessed, i know this and i\u2019m grateful. so to my surprise […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":108,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[115,116,369,76,114,91,43,56,113,16,117,57,118,119,101,120,58,112,111],"yoast_head":"\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\t\n\t\n\n\n\t\n\t\n\t\n