{"id":1338,"date":"2017-05-07T17:20:47","date_gmt":"2017-05-07T21:20:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dodreamon.com\/blog\/?p=1338"},"modified":"2018-08-20T11:12:12","modified_gmt":"2018-08-20T15:12:12","slug":"the-diary-of-this-single-mama-the-misunderstood-single-mom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/dodreamon.com\/blog\/the-diary-of-this-single-mama-the-misunderstood-single-mom\/","title":{"rendered":"*~*The Diary of THIS Single Mama: The Misunderstood Single Mom *~*"},"content":{"rendered":"

The Misunderstood Single Mom<\/p>\n

\u00a0So many times I think being a Single Moms is totally misunderstood. It\u2019s like we have our own little language and code that people just don\u2019t understand. I don\u2019t write this for the proverbial \u201cpity-party\u201d I actually despise that, however, I write this because I have to get it off of my chest and if you are a fellow single mom you may understand.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been told and even caught myself saying a few times \u201cI don\u2019t have anyone to help me\u201d, and I wanted to shed a little light on that phrase. I first want to apologize if any of the WONDERFUL VILLAGE I have felt offended or upset, because as I ALWAYS SAY\u2026 THANK YOU for EVERYTHING YOU DO for Madison and I. It\u2019s NEVER meant to offend or make anyone feel bad I may have just been venting OR talking, saying MY TRUTH. It wasn\u2019t to downplay any role you may have in HELPING US on this journey called life, because honestly, I couldn\u2019t do a lot of things if I didn\u2019t have your help!!! I will try to use my words carefully. Because, when I say that I don\u2019t literally mean I don\u2019t have anyone to help me BUT I say it because I don\u2019t have a significant other to help me. I was married raising two children-my daughter and my step-daughter both were under two, so I know how it is to raise children and have a partner to help. FLAT OUT it\u2019s EASIER I don\u2019t care what you say it is LOL. Unless the other parent is just a horrible parent that causes more issues than not it is! The Bible even says two are better than one. It is just a FACT!<\/p>\n

Having someone to share sick days with, pick-ups from school and\/or daycare. Watch the child if you have a headache OR heck have to use the bathroom is a complete difference than having to ask a family member or friend to help you if you need a sitter or if you have to run to the store. Finding where your child(ren) will go if there is a half day or school is closed, or the child is sick and every single time YOU have to call off work. These are issues that single moms go through and they don\u2019t have someone who can assist that is FULLY RESPONSIBLE to pick up the slack. People can help and it is greatly appreciated BUT honestly, the only TWO people responsible for a child is that child\u2019s PARENTS! POINT. BLANK. PERIOD! Anyone who helps is an Angel and appreciated BUT it\u2019s not their responsibility nor obligation.<\/p>\n

I am BLESSED to be a single mom that the father of my daughter\/ex-husband is alive and he is a good father, however, he moved out of state, therefore, rendering me the responsibility to raise our daughter as a single parent (Google the definition of a single parent). He visits once a month for a few days and is present in her life, however, the day to day tasks, the financial responsibility and everything in between is up to MAMA! SO people may say Chonita you aren\u2019t a single mom, and I\u2019ll respond \u201cYES THE HELL I AM!\u201d LOL<\/p>\n

I may not be a single mom because my child\u2019s father is deceased or a deadbeat or completely absentee but I am a single mother BY MY DEFINITION and since this is MY LIFE, I play by MY RULES. Sorry I just had to say that, because previously people have made those comments and THIS HERE IS MY SET! Lol, The life and times of Chonita Nicole. *InnocentSmile =)<\/p>\n

People have all kinds of thoughts and opinions on YOUR LIFE and that\u2019s cool everyone has an opinion ya\u2019 know just like everyone has a bottom (to say it nicely).<\/p>\n

One more time this is MY STORY it may be different than yours, ACTUALLY, I\u2019m SURE IT IS DIFFERENT FROM YOURS. I KNOW there are A LOT of single moms and single dads who have a WAY HARDER JOURNEY than mine BUT this is just MY STORY one of millions\u2026<\/p>\n

I just want to say to YOU:<\/p>\n

You Single Mama…<\/p>\n

You’re AMAZING!<\/p>\n

You’re STRONG!<\/p>\n

You’re POWERFUL!<\/p>\n

You’re a GREAT MOM!<\/p>\n

You’re ENOUGH!<\/p>\n

God has your back and He is with you and your child(ren)!<\/p>\n

Now let’s straighten our crowns and take care of our baby\/babies!<\/p>\n

I LOVE YOU SIS!<\/p>\n

Are there any single moms out there that are misunderstood or sometimes feel misunderstood? If so share a situation where you felt misunderstood!<\/p>\n

COMMENT AND SHARE WITH OTHER DREAMERS!<\/p>\n

XOXOXO YOURS TRULY,
\nTHEE\u2019 ONE & ONLY,
\nCHONITA NICOLE
\nSENDING PEACE, LOVE & POSITIVITY YOUR WAY!!!<\/p>\n

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